Realistic New Year’s Resolutions for Young Mothers

by Christina Mendez

Happy new year!!!!! You managed to survive 2016! From speaking to lots of young women and mothers, 2016 was the year of tough lessons, self-discovery, trials and tribulations and new beginnings. With that being said, 2017 should be the year of reinvention of the mind, body and spirit, the beginning of projects that will bring self-fulfillment, and year to overall just get SHIT done!! What 2016 And 2017 have in common is, they both bring the urge to make New Year’s resolutions. A Lot of people think New Year’s resolutions are overrated, we here at Mendez Moments LOVE them! New Year’s resolutions are great as long as they are done within a realistic realm.

Examples of Unrealistic resolutions:

“I’m gonna lose 20 lbs in 3 months.”

“I’m gonna save more, spend less.”

“I’m gonna change _______ about my personality.”

You know why these are all unrealistic? They are very admirable goals, but the problem is these resolutions are not specific. Throwing generalized resolutions out there makes them less attainable. You need to be intentional with your resolutions, that makes them more realistic and achievable.

“I’m gonna lose 20 lbs in 3 months.”



“I’m going to eat healthier when I eat out.”

“I’m going to pack healthy lunches every day.”

“I’m going to try to go on walks 3 times a week.”

“I’m going to get a gym membership and try to go 3 times a week.”

Losing weight is more about how you eat theeeennnnnn you worry about exercising. If you are completely inactive and think that this goal is possible you’re in for a real disappointment. All of these resolutions are very specific and very realistic. Let’s continue.

Fitness Apps

“ I’m gonna save more  and spend less”




“ I’m only going to go to Starbucks 3 times a week.”

“I will save $50 from each check when I get paid and put it into a saving account.”

“ I will try more to buy less name brand food items.”

“ I am going to stick to a budget.”

Saving money is never easy, who doesn’t like to shop? It is even harder when you give yourself unrelated savings goals, that are not directly correlated to your budget. You can’t   say I’m going to save $500 a month, when you make  $1500 a month, a $1000.00 goes to your bills every month, and $500.00 is what you live off of. That just doesn’t work. Start small and let the small progress you acquire inspire to aim for higher and higher goals each time!

Budgeting Apps


“ I’m gonna change _____ about my personality”


For example, I have heard young women say I’m going to try to be more soft-spoken. Usually, the desire to alter your personality is directly connected to someone else’s negative view of you. Forget that! You’re beautiful, amazing, and powerful just the way you are. Don’t let anyone make you feel the need to change who you are in order to get approval or love. Now if you’re wanting to be a better listener, that’s different.You’re wanting to change to improve relationships, completely acceptable. See the difference?


“I will try to listen more.”

“I will let other finish speaking before I speak.”

“I will try to be more empathetic.”


Other realistic goals for you are:

“I am going to try to read a bedtime story to my kids every night before bed.”

“I am going to try to find one new outing to take my children to every month.”

“I am going to work on smiling more.”

“I am going to read my bible more.”

“I am going to read a book a month.”

“I am going to dress outside my comfort zone.”

Ladies be intentional, be realistic, make small changes.  Happy goal chasing!!

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